Comments on: Finding My Laotong

By: Spring Girl Chan

Spring Girl Chan — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 16:20:42 +0000

Laotong is a very tradional thing which was carried out in China for girls as they cannot go to school and so it is hard to find friends. In order to have comparionship, mothers do match swornsisters or laotong to their daughters. It is a great idea to have laotong. Unforturnately, in today’s society, we will never follow this dream as having a laotong.
The world circumstances has changed the human ways of living and even today, in China, I believe, there is either no such things going on or very few. It is sad as it is a nice and warm tradition. But a piece of friendly advice to those people who feels lonely…the best laotong you ever have is yourself in today’s world because “Men” fails “men” or if you are religious, the best laotong, is your “Father in Heaven”. For when one relies on Him, one may be alone but never lonely. Only when one relies on human being that one will feel lonely.
Yes, Snow Flower and the Secret Fan is a lovely, heart breaking story. But it is a novel and a lovely novel to read but not to live in it. Not in today’s world. So, be good to yourself and those around, just to make the world a better place for all to live in.

By: sleepyjane

sleepyjane — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 12:20:12 +0000

I totally agree with this post. Watching shows or reading books that speak of friendships like that makes me sad. I’ve never had that kind of friendship.

You’re going into my reader. ;)
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By: Becky

Becky — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 11:56:14 +0000

I’ve been looking for a new book to read, I hope that my local library has this, your review makes it sound like it’s a really good read.

Do I have any friends who I would consider to be a laotong? A friend who I would have considered giving this title to before has been drifting away, it has been happening during the whole summer and with university coming up I don’t think that we’ll ever be that close again. I hope to one day have a friend like that, someone who I can trust fully and who can fully trust me, I envy people who have friends like that too.

And have I had bad experiences with friendships? Yes, but I think that we all have. Friends turning their back on me, lying, not being trustworthing, etc. But they were experiences, and I’m glad that I had them, as it made me more aware of what people can be like.
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By: Angel

Angel — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 03:44:35 +0000

You should definitely give it a read. It’s wonderful.

By: Stephanie

Stephanie — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 22:23:33 +0000

I have an awful time reading things like that, because I feel so lonely. I’m much better than I have ever been in my life (with all of two and a half friends), but I have most definitely never had a laotong friendship.
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