What Love Means To Me: Part 2
5 Feb
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Hello again! I’m so glad that everyone is enjoying their week. Is it me or did this week go by extremely fast? I know few of you read part one of this article so in case you’re confused, you may want to read up a little. I was currently answering the statement of me being married so young. If you are new here, I was married four months ago. I’m currently 19 years-old and for a lot of kids my age, they couldn’t possibly think of committing to a life-long relationship. I think at my age it’s nearly impossible to commit to a university major, let alone a marriage.
I don’t think I am any smarter or mature than any other 19 year-old. I don’t believe I am any more ignorant than any 40 year-old. What difference does it make of my age if I am married at 19 or 35? At 15, I had committed myself to a goal of obtaining a career as a graphic designer. By 16 years-old, I had already invested into helping my husband develop his freelancing business. At 18, I was already surpassing others who were established years before I could even walk. Today at 19, I co-own a successful, and still upcoming graphic design and web development studio with my husband. If I can do what it takes to make things in my life a reality, who can judge me for committing to someone I love?
No, I don’t know what the future holds. However, the same can be said about the car you just bought or the company you just invested in. Nothing is guaranteed to you in this life. Why am I still receiving judgment from other people about my marital status? The one thing that holds no value to my character or the potential I carry.
I believe the thing I hate most is that being a Christian and marrying young, everyone assumes it’s to justify some type of virginity issue. Do I look ignorant enough to sign to commit to someone else because I have raging hormones? That’s ridiculous. Why is it so hard to believe that we both made this decision based on our goals and level of respect in our relationship.
My second favorite assumption is that I’m with child or have a child. I don’t think there is anything wrong with people getting married due to pregnancy. However, it’s not why I got married. Why can’t anyone ask? Why are there always those two assumptions? What is even more ridiculous is that people are bold enough to approach you with these ideologies.
So to answer the question, why did I get married at my age? It was a mutual agreement based on the commitment, career goals, and life goals my husband and I share. Oh, also because he asked. ;)
I believe this post was long enough, too long for me to cover the next part of this series: What is Being in Love Like for You? So, for those married people, why did you get married? For those who are planning to someday, why would you like to get married? Also for those of you who never want to get married, why not?
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Well I’m gonna be 19 in a couple of days and I would not think that I would marry a guy :) But that’s what I think. I don’t have the right to judge you for your actions. If people really say that they are Christians and they judge you then you should remind them this wonderful sentence from the Holy Bible; “Judge not, that ye be not judged.”
There are millions of people living on earth and millions have a different way of life. Your path intersected with a guy that you marry and you did…Mine did not intersect with a kind of guy that I would think that I’d marry, so I did not. It’s that simple. People always want you to act like them.
I wish you a happy life with your husband :) If you are happy then there’s nothing else to worry about :)
By the way, your site is awesome!
I’ll be honest, I was totally curious as to why you were married so young, but hey your life is your life :).
I’m 24, to me, I coulda waited to get married. Or never got married. I’m clearly aware of why I didnt want to get married though! I think that helps me sound less crazy lol. My long term boyfriend was leaving for the military, he asked me to marry him. So I said yes. He was discharged, we still got married.
We’re best friends. Military or not, we were eventually some day going to get married which is why this doesnt bother us so much. Its kinda odd, and a little challenging but he’s reshaping what I THOUGHT I knew about marriages.
Btw, can I just say I think your accomplishments are awesome? I wish all the time I didnt give up on web and graphic design!
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Wow, what a great topic to talk about!! I also feel that’s it’s completely ignorant of people to simply assume that there’s something wrong with the whole getting married so young thing!
I live in a country where it’s completely normal to be married at a young age, sometimes right after high school… But here, I (a second year college student) have to explain to my friends why I’m not ready for either a relationship nor a marriage for that matter. It’s just so crazy how judgmental people can be, whether it’s in the States or in Saudi Arabia :P
Anyways, thanks for talking about this issue. It’s about time someone talked about it :P
And congratulations, it seems that maybe people forgot to tell you that <3
Peace.
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If there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that people will judge you no matter what you do, no matter what age, no matter what religion you’ve committed yourself to. If you were 26, they’d still think you were too young to be married. If you were 32, they’d hound you for NOT being married yet. I always tell people that I do whatever I please because it’s my life. I hate when people throw around the “statistics” argument. To hell with statistics, statistics show a lot of things. Statistics show that out of billions of people in the world, I could quite possible walk out of my house and get hacked up by an ax murderer. That doesn’t mean it will happen, but it is statistics. Everyone should always do whatever their heart desires. I hate the saying “with age comes experience”. There are people younger than myself who have been through a lot more than I have. They have experienced things that I cannot even begin to fathom experiencing. Most people are judgmental because they live to fit the standards that society has set. It’s sad really, but everyone is entitled to do whatever the hell they want! That’s how I feel.
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No matter what you say or try to dissuade people they are always going to believe what they want, see what they want and judge other accordingly. I’ve learned that, though it’s wrong, sometimes that is just the way it is.
Call me clueless but I’ve been visiting your blog for forever now and I thought that you were around 24ish lol. I’m so out of it sometimes.
If getting married young is good for you then forget what others may think. You can’t let that affect you in anyway.
I personally don’t see myself getting married soon because I know that I still need time to grow for myself.
You don’t have to explain sh*t to anyone. You are of age. No one can tell you about you, but you! I learned that from my daughter father. There are many things I am learning. I’m older than you and I’m still learning and growing. There are people that is going to say things to hurt you, make you change your mind or classify you in a category. Pay it NO attention. You love your man and you wanted to seal the love for eternity. I don’t blame you. Do you! I am happy to hear things like this. You guys got it going for yourselves. I hope your marriage stay blessed!.
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At 35 it still happens.
People will try to put you in a box but its only successful when you let them. Living life and being happy are two things you should never have to apologize for. I’m always suspicious of people who want to lay claim to what someone should be doing with their lives because how do they even have the time when they’re supposed to be paying attention to their own lives?
The truth is that people focus on other people’s lives so they don’t have to focus on themselves. You know why? Cause focusing on yourself is hella scary and actually means that we would have to take personal responsibility for the gift of life that has been bestowed upon us.
Focusing on others gives us the distraction we need to not work on our own personal happiness.
And well that’s just sad.
Great post.
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I must admit, I have probably came to those conclusions about some people who have gotten married young. I’m mostly talking about my brother and his now wife. I couldn’t understand why they would want to get married so early, especially when they had been dating for less time than I thought they should have. But it seems to be working out fine. As for me, I’m still waiting to be asked. I would want to get married because I love someone and want to be with them always. I would want people to know that we are together and we always will be. Other than that, I don’t know why I really need to be married.